2022 October

My own funeral? Imagine.

2022-10-16T00:00:22-04:00October 15th, 2022|Categories: Hamilton Spectator, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , |2 Comments

“Be well.” This is what I said to my students. It was after a recent class. Then they left for the various corners of their lives. We’d just unpacked “Cathedral,” a story by Raymond Carver. He often wrote about broken characters, broken in ways that Carver himself was broken. “Be well.” Then they were gone.

2018 October

The sacredness of the moment

2018-11-25T00:32:18-05:00October 6th, 2018|Categories: Hamilton Spectator|Tags: , , , |2 Comments

She was a friend and it was her funeral and we were reminded how life is little more than a fleeting mist. Moments of her life were shown. Photos. There she is — her name is Wendy — as a young girl. Later, a graduate. Then Wendy the writer and editor, the years I knew her. I found her to be a thinking person who laughed easily

2014 July

Celebrating an old life lost. And a young one with joy.

2017-07-19T00:57:45-04:00July 18th, 2014|Categories: Daily Dad|Tags: , , , , , |0 Comments

By the time I came home that day there were already six vehicles in front of the tiny condo that is our neighbour’s – an ambulance, a fire truck, two Emergency 911 vehicles and two paramedic trucks – but they could have brought every life-saving unit this side of the moon and it wouldn’t have mattered [...]

2014 May

The valley of the shadow of death

2017-07-19T01:21:36-04:00May 7th, 2014|Categories: Daily Dad|Tags: , , , , , , , , |4 Comments

The two neighbour boys are 8 and 5 and it looks like their father is about to die. It’s this morning. My kids and I walk to school with them and the boys' mother. The 8-year-old is in Hannah’s class. What can you say? + It’s yesterday evening and we, Mother and I, that is Jean [...]

2013 December

Timothy Mugisha died in his mother’s arms

2017-07-19T20:17:50-04:00December 4th, 2013|Categories: Daily Dad|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |2 Comments

We arrived at the chapel to find Timothy’s casket sitting heavy at the entrance. This, yesterday morning when we had walked down the familiar green hill to the chapel, the university chapel of dark wood and century-old brick, a place the children have known as Sunday school for some years, a place now to say [...]

2013 May

Tim Bosma’s funeral: a bittersweet day

2017-04-10T21:29:02-04:00May 23rd, 2013|Categories: Daily Dad|Tags: , , , , , , , |6 Comments

The children had dental appointments and I was running late and so found myself in the back without a program in hand, a thousand people in front of me, a thousand faces, a thousand hearts, some in black clothing, some not, all coming together for one purpose, to say goodbye to Tim Bosma. We listened [...]