marriage

2019 March

Hey, let’s talk about sex!

2019-04-08T21:23:51-04:00March 23rd, 2019|Categories: Hamilton Spectator, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , , , |6 Comments

In a few days the children’s mother and I are at a marriage retreat. It’s our first since I can’t remember when. The invitation, by fluke, came a day after I was propositioned to have an affair. Now, in this space, I don’t talk much about it, sex and all. This is because Mennonites didn’t even know what sex was until 1985,

2019 February

The fragrance of (my) life

2019-02-16T07:58:28-04:00February 9th, 2019|Categories: Hamilton Spectator, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , , , |9 Comments

So I'm in the middle of Africa dining with a colleague and he declares, "That's great news about Jean. Congratulations!" Out comes his phone and all the details and I'm in the dark and feeling rather sheepish about it. My bride, the children's mother, in her natural humility, hadn't told me of her recent recognition as a Canadian

2016 July

An anniversary wish to the music of my life

2016-09-21T10:17:32-04:00July 29th, 2016|Categories: Hamilton Spectator, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , , , , |10 Comments

(The Hamilton Spectator - Friday, July 29, 2016) HAMILTON, CANADA ✦ It's a warm and ordinary day, warm and ordinary enough to run around in shorts and bare feet. The children's mother, your babe, that is your bride, is playing your song. The cats are in front and the dog's in back and the kids are doing homework and nothing much is happening, except this song from the piano in the other room, the piece that makes your blood jump every time.

2015 November

The news of the week is good news

2017-07-18T01:46:42-04:00November 28th, 2015|Categories: Daily Dad|Tags: , , , , , , , |0 Comments

The news of the week is good news. Our family friend, Dorothy, a Ugandan who has filled this space from time to time, had a change of heart and mind and decided, with her husband Patrick, to get herself to a Kampala hospital for a planned caesarian section after all. You’ll recall the great concern [...]

2015 August

Truth under cover

2016-01-14T07:25:28-04:00August 22nd, 2015|Categories: Christian Week, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , , , , , |0 Comments

(Christian Week - August 2015) HAMILTON, CANADA ✦ The ring that my wife put on my finger on the day that we married stayed there for some years until the sorry day it flew off while my arm was in mid-upstroke in an Ontario lake.

2015 July

On turning 50, flying candy and new wedding rings

2017-07-18T02:11:39-04:00July 18th, 2015|Categories: Daily Dad|Tags: , , , , |1 Comment

When you’re 20 the world (thank you Rich Mullins) is your parking lot. When you’re 30 you know better. When you’re 40 you’ve had a crash or two. You live with a regret or three (even if you've divorced them). By the time you reach my age – I turned 50 this past week – you’re happy [...]

2015 April

Sexually delicate territories

2017-07-18T02:28:28-04:00April 15th, 2015|Categories: Daily Dad|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |1 Comment

The best time to talk to your nine-year-old boy about women’s plumbing and these sorts of sexually delicate territories is when he’s asleep. This is what every trying father discovers after said boy lays splayed on the living room floor pretending he’s having a baby. Yes, my son Jon was in obvious pain – it seems no epidural [...]

2015 March

The music of my life

2017-07-18T02:33:02-04:00March 26th, 2015|Categories: Daily Dad|Tags: , , , , , , , |3 Comments

Some days I wish I was more musical, at least as musical as the rest of the family. I think the dog wishes the same for himself. Sensing this, yesterday I let Zack listen to Handel on my i-pod. It was Handel’s Concerti Grossi Op 3. I held the buds in his big German Shepherd dog ears. He [...]