2022 June

Being good at being single

2022-06-21T20:01:25-04:00June 18th, 2022|Categories: Hamilton Spectator, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , , |8 Comments

Most of us have no clue what we’re doing in these matters of the heart, but if you’re looking, and if it’s any help, here’s something for a summer day. It starts with a fine young lady, Corinna. Little Boy Hopeless, that’s me, hit her with a rock. In Grade 2. Seated behind her, I’d also pull her dark, silky hair. I liked her

2022 February

Love and all its absurdities

2022-02-27T23:35:50-05:00February 12th, 2022|Categories: Hamilton Spectator, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , , |2 Comments

Today, with Valentine’s rounding the corner, let’s talk about love and insanity. First, under the heading, “Everything I’ve Learned In Life, I’ve Learned From My Teenagers,” let me say that there are never a lack of new and exciting lessons. “You know, Dad,” my eldest said recently. “Don’t

2021 July

If you think the pandemic was bad in Canada …

2021-07-04T08:53:22-04:00July 4th, 2021|Categories: Hamilton Spectator, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , |4 Comments

There are always gentle and innocent ways to have your heart ripped open. One way is to talk to someone who may or may not be alive the next time you think of them. In this case you’re talking with Paul, hands-free, on the road. It’s a sunny June day and there’s no cost, talking all the way to Uganda. It’s 21st-century living.

2021 February

Even the Son of God had family complications

2021-03-21T02:14:36-04:00February 20th, 2021|Categories: Hamilton Spectator, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , , |10 Comments

It’s the other day and I’m on the phone with a friend in the Cayman Islands. The conversation turns to family. Family, what we celebrated earlier this week. Of course, some of us might as well celebrate the finer points of being an executed outlaw. Sort of like in Manitoba, where, in place of February’s Family Day, they celebrate Louis

2020 September

Finding Grace (and grace) in our lives

2020-09-06T07:52:15-04:00September 5th, 2020|Categories: Hamilton Spectator, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , , , |8 Comments

Grace, the Sheepadoodle, is a small dog with big feet who’s happiest when she’s running full-throttle, wild and wide-eyed, tripping over herself down some hill. She’s a dog who knows that life, even in dog years, is so short that there’s no time to waste, even if there’s no place to go

2020 February

Settling for only the best

2020-06-20T07:42:27-04:00February 15th, 2020|Categories: Newspaper columns, The Standard|Tags: , , , |4 Comments

MUKONO, UGANDA ✦ This column is about UCU’s new, yet-to-be-named vice- chancellor. But first let me tell you about the Ugandan who was happy to tell me about his recent marriage.“ Congratulations,” I said, before asking, “How old are you?” “Thirty.” I said congratulations again. “That’s a good age.” Then, like a good counsellor

2019 March

Hey, let’s talk about sex!

2019-06-20T14:06:51-04:00March 23rd, 2019|Categories: Hamilton Spectator, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , , , |6 Comments

In a few days the children’s mother and I are at a marriage retreat. It’s our first since I can’t remember when. The invitation, by fluke, came a day after I was propositioned to have an affair. Now, in this space, I don’t talk much about it, sex and all. This is because Mennonites didn’t even know what sex was until 1985,