suffering

2018 May

What if pain and suffering are also nourishment?

2018-07-15T17:00:09+00:00May 5th, 2018|Categories: Hamilton Spectator, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , , |0 Comments

A bus hits a semi on a highway. A van drives along a busy walkway. Death arrives as casually as one day following another. And all the pain with it. Humboldt. Toronto. And the next one? Healing will come. But much of it will come later. First it’s been time to cry with those who cry.

2017 May

Saving mothers, one modest step at a time

2017-07-24T22:00:36+00:00May 12th, 2017|Categories: Hamilton Spectator, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , , , , |0 Comments

In sub-Saharan Africa they call childbirth “war.” If you’re a woman about to deliver a child in that part of the world, this is your fate. Imagine it. You’re young. (Younger than most Canadians can imagine.) You're poor. You're alone.

2016 June

A world where the beautiful and terrible live side by side

2017-05-26T18:13:05+00:00June 18th, 2016|Categories: Hamilton Spectator, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , , , , , |0 Comments

(The Hamilton Spectator – Saturday, June 18, 2016) HAMILTON, CANADA ✦ It was my daughter's first teenage birthday party and the family van was full of giggling girls. The verdict on the Tim Bosma trial wasn't in, not yet, when we pulled into the bowling ally across from Carmen's banquet hall and I said, "Tim Bosma's funeral was in that hall. And his wedding too." Silence fell. One girl said it was terrible what happened to Tim. Then my barely 13-year-old asked, "Why would they have his wedding and funeral at the same place?"

2016 April

We have a limited democracy around here

2017-07-18T01:01:49+00:00April 3rd, 2016|Categories: Daily Dad|Tags: , , , |0 Comments

It’s dinner. The vote goes in the kids’ favour for what DVD we will watch this evening. (Dad's latest find, a biography on Rich Mullins, will wait another night for, uh, Laura Ingills and company.) “Thank God for whoever invented democracy,” says Jon. “The Greeks did,” I noted. (More on this soon: some news from [...]

2016 March

So grab death and scream “Mine!” And what does it turn into?

2017-07-18T01:03:59+00:00March 20th, 2016|Categories: Daily Dad|Tags: , , , , , |0 Comments

It’s bedtime. Liz needs to get to the kitchen to make her snack for the next day. “Dad!” she says. “I’m afraid to go out there. Something’s there. I can feel it in my bones!” “That’s arthritis.” + But, really, it’s the kids who often come up with the most though-provoking comments. Sometimes they’re funny. [...]

2016 March

Grab death and scream “mine!” And what does it turn into?

2017-07-18T01:12:45+00:00March 19th, 2016|Categories: Hamilton Spectator, Newspaper columns|Tags: , , , , , |0 Comments

(The Hamilton Spectator – Saturday March 19, 2016) MUKONO, UGANDA ✦ It was getting late and she, my 12-year-old, sat on the couch and looked into the nothingness and pulled from the air a comment as plain and profound as any. "You know," she said, "People don't know how good they have it." This is what happens when you live in Africa. You see things. Life. People. Suffering. Death sometimes. You get perspective. "They don't know," Liz said. "People don't know." Canadians don't know. This is what she said.

2016 February

Winning and losing and other sacred moments

2017-07-18T01:20:32+00:00February 11th, 2016|Categories: Daily Dad|Tags: , , , , , , |0 Comments

It’s morning, just past sunrise, and the youngest, Child #3, gives me a big hug at the door. “Wish me luck, Daddy!” she says. Today is Track and Field Day at her school. She will run and jump and all that. It will be good for her body and her soul too, and I am [...]